To get you “virgins” started, provided below is a great way to tell your Dom what you are and are not into. It’s honestly a great first step. As time goes by, your Hard Limits(what you are not willing to do) may potentially change to Soft Limits(what you are willing to do).
Based on personal experience, my own soft limits became soft limits because I told myself to try them, at least once. We urge you to keep yourself comfortable and safe. Do not force yourself to do anything you do not want to do.
| Activity | Soft Limit | Hard Limit | Not Sure/Discuss |
| Abrasion | |||
| Age Play | |||
| Anal Sex | |||
| Anal Plugs (Small) | |||
| Anal Plugs (Large) | |||
| Anal Plug (Public-Under Clothes) | |||
| Animal Roles | |||
| Arm & leg sleeves (Armbinders) | |||
| Aromas | |||
| Asphyxiation | |||
| Auctioned for charity | |||
| Ball Stretching | |||
| Bathroom use control | |||
| Beastiality | |||
| Beating (Soft) | |||
| Beating (Hard) | |||
| Blindfolding | |||
| Being Serviced (Sexual) | |||
| Being bitten | |||
| Breast/chest bondage | |||
| Breath control | |||
| Branding | |||
| Boot Worship | |||
| Bondage (light) | |||
| Bondage (heavy) | |||
| Bondage (multi-day) | |||
| Bondage (public under clothing) | |||
| Breast whipping | |||
| Brown showers (scat) | |||
| Cages (locked inside) | |||
| Caning | |||
| Castration fantasy | |||
| Catheterization | |||
| Cattle prod (electrical toy) | |||
| Cells/Closets (locked inside of) | |||
| Chains | |||
| Chamber pot use | |||
| Chastity belts | |||
| Chauffeuring | |||
| Choking | |||
| Chores (domestic service) | |||
| Clothespins | |||
| Cock rings/straps | |||
| Cock worship | |||
| Collars (worn in private) | |||
| Collars (worn in public) | |||
| Competitions (with other subs) | |||
| Corsets (wearing casually) | |||
| Corsets (trained waist reduction) | |||
| Cuffs (leather) | |||
| Cuffs (metal) | |||
| Cutting | |||
| Diapers (wearing) | |||
| Diapers (wetting) | |||
| Diapers (soiling) | |||
| Dilation | |||
| Dildos | |||
| Double Penetration | |||
| Electricity | |||
| Enemas (for cleansing) | |||
| Enemas ( retention/punishment) | |||
| Enforced chastity | |||
| Erotic Dance (for audience) | |||
| Examinations (physical) | |||
| Exercise (forced/required) | |||
| Exhibitionism (friends) | |||
| Exhibitionism (strangers) | |||
| Eye contact restrictions | |||
| Face Slapping | |||
| Fantasy Abandonment | |||
| Fantasy rape | |||
| Fantasy gang rape | |||
| Fear (being scared) | |||
| Fisting (anal) | |||
| Fisting (vaginal) | |||
| Flame play | |||
| Following orders | |||
| Foot worship | |||
| Forced bedwetting | |||
| forced dressing | |||
| Forced eating | |||
| Forced homosexuality | |||
| Forced heterosexuality | |||
| Forced masturbation | |||
| Forced nudity (private) | |||
| Forced nudity (around others) | |||
| Forced Servitude | |||
| Forced smoking | |||
| Full head hoods | |||
| Gags (cloth) | |||
| Gags (inflatable) | |||
| Gags (phallic) | |||
| Gags (rubber) | |||
| Gags (tape) | |||
| Gas masks | |||
| Gates of Hell (male) | |||
| Genital sex | |||
| Given away to another Dom (temp) | |||
| Given away to another Dom (perm) | |||
| Golden Showers | |||
| Gun play | |||
| Hair brush spankings | |||
| Hair pulling | |||
| Hand Jobs (giving) | |||
| Hand Jobs (receiving) | |||
| Harems (serving w/other subs) | |||
| Harnessing (leather) | |||
| Harnessing (rope) | |||
| Having food chosen for you | |||
| Having clothing chosen for you | |||
| (head (give fellatio/cunnilingus) | |||
| Head (rcv fellation/cunnilingus) | |||
| High Heel Wearing | |||
| High Heel Worship | |||
| Homage with tongue (non-sexual) | |||
| Hoods | |||
| Hot oils (on genitals) | |||
| Hot waxing | |||
| Housework (doing) | |||
| Human puppy dog | |||
| Humiliation (private) | |||
| Humiliation (public) | |||
| Hypnotism | |||
| Ice cubes | |||
| Immobilization | |||
| Infantilism | |||
| Initiation rites | |||
| Injections | |||
| Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage | |||
| Interrogations | |||
| Kidnapping | |||
| Kneeling | |||
| Knife play | |||
| Leather Clothing | |||
| Leather restraints | |||
| Lectures for misbehavior | |||
| Licking (non-sexual) | |||
| Lingerie (wearing) | |||
| Manacles and Irons | |||
| Manicures (giving) | |||
| Massage (giving) | |||
| Massage (receiving) | |||
| Medical scenes | |||
| Modeling for erotic photos | |||
| Mouth bits | |||
| Mummification | |||
| Name change (for scene) | |||
| Nipple clamps | |||
| Nipple rings (piercing) | |||
| Nipple weights | |||
| Oral/anal play (rimming) | |||
| Over the knee spanking | |||
| Orgasm denial | |||
| Orgasm control | |||
| Outdoor scenes | |||
| Pain (severe) | |||
| Pain (mild) | |||
| Persona training (in scene) | |||
| Personal modification (rl) | |||
| Phone sex (serving Dom) | |||
| Phone sex (serving Dom’s friends) | |||
| Phone sex (commercial provider) | |||
| Piercing (temporary, play-pierce) | |||
| Piercing (permanent) | |||
| Plastic surgery | |||
| Prison scenes | |||
| Prostitution (public pretense) | |||
| Prostitution (actual) | |||
| Pony slave | |||
| Public exposure | |||
| Punishment scene | |||
| Pussy/cock whipping | |||
| Pussy worship | |||
| Riding crops | |||
| Riding the “horse” (crotch tort) | |||
| Rituals | |||
| Religious scenes | |||
| Restrictive rules on behavior | |||
| Rubber/latex clothing | |||
| Rope body harness | |||
| Saran wrap | |||
| Scarification | |||
| Scratching – getting | |||
| Scratching – giving | |||
| Sensory deprivation | |||
| Serving | |||
| Serving as art | |||
| Serving as ashtray | |||
| Serving as furniture | |||
| Serving as a maid | |||
| Serving as a toilet (urine) | |||
| Serving as a toilet (feces) | |||
| Serving as waitress/waiter | |||
| Serving orally (sexual) | |||
| Serving other Doms (supervised) | |||
| Serving other Doms (unsupervised) | |||
| Sexual deprivation (short term) | |||
| Sexual deprivation (long term) | |||
| Shaving (body hair) | |||
| Having (head hair) | |||
| Skinny dipping | |||
| Sleep deprivation | |||
| Sleep sacks | |||
| Slutty clothing (private) | |||
| Slutty clothing (public) | |||
| Spandex clothing | |||
| Spanking | |||
| Speech restrictions (when/what) | |||
| Speculums (anal) | |||
| Speculums (vaginal) | |||
| Spitting | |||
| Spreader bars | |||
| Standing in corner | |||
| Stocks | |||
| Straight jackets | |||
| Strap-on-dildos (sucking on) | |||
| Strap-on-dildos (penetrated by) | |||
| Strap-on-dildos (wearing) | |||
| Strapping (full body beating) | |||
| Suspension (upright) | |||
| Suspension (inverted) | |||
| Supplying new partners for Dom | |||
| Swallowing feces | |||
| Swallowing semen | |||
| Swallowing urine | |||
| Swapping (with one other couple) | |||
| Swinging (multiple couples) | |||
| Tampon training (in ass) | |||
| Tattooing | |||
| Teasing | |||
| TENS unit (electrical toy) | |||
| Thumb cuffs (metal) | |||
| Tickling | |||
| Triple Penetration | |||
| Urethral Sounds (metal rods) | |||
| Uniforms | |||
| Including others | |||
| Vaginal dildo | |||
| Verbal humiliation | |||
| Vibrator on genitals | |||
| Violet wand (electrical toy) | |||
| Voyeurism (watching others) | |||
| Voyeurism (your Dom w/others) | |||
| Video (watching others) | |||
| Video (recordings of you) | |||
| Water torture | |||
| Waxing (hair removal) | |||
| Wearing symbolic jewelry | |||
| Weight gain (forced) | |||
| Weight loss (forced) | |||
| Whipping | |||
| Wooden paddles | |||
| Wrestling | |||
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